Many other Intuitives come to me for a session.  They very often have a difficult time reading and seeing for themselves.  I do have the ability to read myself, and more and more I am getting the messages to spend more time in quiet meditation so I can gain a richer and deeper mastery of my gifts.The problem with me is that I do not always want to hear the truth.  I have my own agenda and that is not always for my highest good.  I am sure you have been here before like me, not wanting to hear or know the truth yet wanting a different outcome.   During one of my Medium venues last year I said to a woman; ”How honest do you want me to be with you in reference to your husband’s health and outcome?”"  She responded: “Don’t be that honest.”    Being honest, for many of us, is difficult.

I was just on the phone with my friend’s mother because I observed a heart problem around her.  As a matter of fact, six months ago I told my friend, I see leg pain around your mother and a heart condition and something needs to be done.  I just found out that last year she went to the doctor and was told she has some blockage in one of her arteries.  Now a year has gone by and I asked her, “why have you not followed up to see what the next step is for this condition to be resolved?” My friend’s mother said to me, “I was wondering lately why the doctor has not followed up with me.”  I said to her, “you have a heart condition, your legs are going numb, you need to take responsibility and know what needs to be done to solve this problem so you can heal your life.”  Now do you think she really wants to live in truth???? NO!  Her response to me was, “when am I going to have a relationship?”  She sounds like most of us; doesn’t she?  In the middle of a crisis we always want to know when the man or woman is coming into our life.  I said to her, “you can have a man in your life in the spring after surgery.”  She said, “so, you see surgery?”  Now the doctor had told her they needed to replace the clogged artery.   I am not a doctor, but isn’t surgery required to do that?    Mind you I told her about her date with surgery before I found out all of this information about the doctor.

I hung up with her and was baffled because she does not want to live in reality with her life right now.   Many times it is tough for us to live in reality when we are scared there is uncertainty around us.

Thinking about relationships made me think of the many conversations I have with my friends on a regular basis.  Going back to that whole living in truth moment…  How many times do you get the same message this guy is not the one and it is not going to work out, yet we still want to know what everybody else thinks, nd if they think it is possible.  When my clients ask me about a relationship that I know they want to be in, I see the outcome not going in their favor and this can be tough. 

I always say if something is removed from us it is because there is far greater waiting in the wings.  Also if someone does not belong to you, consider this a blessing and have your heart open to receive the gift.

Warm Wishes,

Joan Marie Whelan

www.JoanMarieWhelan.com

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In the book, “Emotional Intelligence,” author Daniel Goleman writes, “Being able to enter flow is emotional intelligence at its best; flow represents perhaps the ultimate in harnessing the emotions in the service of performance and learning.  In flow the emotions are not just contained and channeled, but positive, energized, and aligned with the task at hand.  To be caught in the ennui of depression or the agitation of anxiety is to be barred from flow.”(1) 

You see, flow is indicative of intuition working at its finest in combination with the brain’s instinctive power to harness positively-charged and rational thinking.  The recent article (Do What You Feel, Maybe – the power and perils of relying on intuition)(2) by David G. Myers, social psychologist at Hope College elaborates on the “perils” of relying on intuition, and presents ”intuitive” statements from our current president; one in particular, where he met with Russian President Putin, ”I looked the man in the eye. I was able to get a sense of his soul.”  In reflection, I understand how some might view this form of “intuition” as inflated or overconfident; but if we refer back to the analogy of Goleman, we can surmise that individuals who are experiencing heightened levels of anxiety or depression (or other mental or emotional issues) may not be able to rationally form an intuitive opinion when flow has been blocked.

Flight-or-fight response (3), the theory proposed by American physiologist Walter Cannon in 1915, probably gives a better psychological perspective into how intuition and “flow” work so well together.  Basing his research on animals, Cannon understood that primal instincts in animals were initiated by the flight-or-fight response; which demonstrated that thought processes were at work in the body that manifested physical responses to the situation at hand.  For example, perception plays a key part in how both animals and human beings react to specific events based on signals sensed by the brain.  Some of the physiological findings showed that automatic/immediate responses like heart and lung acceleration, blood vessel constriction, pupil dilation, among other physical changes were all indicative of intuitive perception. 

While practiced individuals have a more fine-tuned, and discernable ”flow” of intuition, others may not be so adept at preconception as they have permitted – or are under the influence of certain stress factors, narcissistic tendencies, or other psychological trauma that curtails intuitive abilities. Hyper-inflation of the human’s perception often leads to misconstrued signals, unwarranted attacks; or worse - complete ignorance of the facts.  Allow me to revisit Goleman’s statement, “In flow the emotions are not just contained and channeled, but positive, energized, and aligned with the task at hand.”  If we simply repeat this sentence, we understand that intuition is comprised of more than what some might deem “psycho-babble;” intuitive flow is the sum of all parts working in harmony - mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically. 

Appropriately so, we must learn to quickly decipher what the mind’s eye perceives.  To do so, one must have reached a level of intimacy with the collective unconscious.  According to Carl Jung, Swiss psychiatrist, the “collective unconscious” is known to be a “reservoir of the experiences of our species.”  Interestingly enough, the intuitive flow that helps individuals to become successful, wise and able to manifest transformation stems from the “collective unconscious”(4) that Jung studied and theorized during the early 1900’s. 

Is it really all that far from belief? The power of human emotion, coupled with the positive flow of intuition is what defines greatness.  Fine leaders like the Dalai Lama, Jesus Christ, Mother Teresa, Albert Einstein, Benjamin Franklin, and Isaac Newton all demonstrated specific commonalities - steadfastness, determination and calmness.  When you are completely centered, your intuitive flow is more reliable, more fortuitous…and using your collective unconscious as your guide, your flight-or-fight responsiveness becomes more clear, and success becomes you.

Until we speak again, I am

Joan Marie, your Intuition Expert

References:

1. Emotional Intelligence, Daniel Goleman, Chap. 6 - The Master Aptitude, pg 90

2. Incharacter.org, Do What You Feel, Maybe – the power and perils of relying on intuition, David G. Myers

3. Fight-or-Flight response, en.wikipedia.org

4. Collective Unconscious, en.wikipedia.org

1. Emotional Intelligence, Daniel Goleman, Chap. 6 - The Master Aptitude, pg 90

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